Starter gifts

A first toy should invite, not intimidate. Small, smooth, easy to clean and not too expensive, so trying it is the easy part.

A first plug or prostate toy

Start with a slim beginner plug with a flared base, or a small prostate massager. An anal training set with three sizes lets him go at his own pace. Always use plenty of water-based lube.

A first cock ring

A stretchy silicone ring fits almost everyone and is easy to put on and take off. Save steel for later, once he knows his size.

A first taste of kink

A blindfold, soft cuffs or a coil of rope is all you need for a first evening of bondage. Agree on a safeword before you start.